You all know that I like to keep things happy and up-beat on my blog. However, my heart has been burdened with a message I think God wants me to share. So in obedience, I’m prayerfully, going to talk about gay marriage in our country today. It grieves me to have to talk about it as I have friends that I care about who have chosen the gay lifestyle. However, if I don’t speak truth , what kind of friend am I?
I am no theologian…just an ordinary woman who loves God and knows He can’t help but be totally dismayed with the direction our country is going. A country that was originally founded as a nation that trusted God, is hardly recognizable as a Christian nation at all anymore. God gives us clear direction. He told us in His Word–the Bible–that marriage is between a man and a woman. Genesis 2:20-24 But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
This week someone was telling me about their friend who has a new boyfriend. The last I heard their friend was married. However, as the conversation went down, there was question as to whether she was still married or not. Then it was said, “Well, I really don’t blame her for finding someone else. Her husband was never home and they really didn’t have much of a marriage.” Those words dug deep into my heart and have bothered me all week. Is this the way we view marriage today? Something of if it feels good, do it. If it gets boring, move on? Really? It’s O.K. when you don’t have much of a marriage to go find someone else? The last I heard it was a covenant between you, your spouse and God…until death do you part. (1Corinthians 7:39A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. )
Is marriage not sacred anymore? For many years the media has inundated us with sex. Women nearly naked, buff men with their shirts off and often in underwear, men and women laying together in bed either in the act of sex or suggesting it just to name a few examples. Sex is a powerful tool that God uses to bind a man and woman together. It is the super-glue so to speak to the relationship that keeps it strong. However, we are all human. When we are constantly bombarded with sex or risqué suggestions at every turn, some of us will not be able to handle the temptations. The Bible talks about sexual deviations from nearly the beginning of time. It is a condition of the human race. Hollywood, advertising and the like are feeding those human weaknesses every day and have been doing so for years.
If I am a Bible-believing Christian, I don’t have the luxury of disregarding what the Bible says when it comes to a topic regarding homosexuality. 1Corinthians 6:9-10 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
I remember as a child wanting to do something that my friends were doing and I would say to my mom when she said no, “But Mom! Everybody’s doing it!” However, as my mom, she knew that my decision to join the crowd for whatever reason wasn’t good for me. She would say, “If all your friend were jumping off a bridge, would you do that too?” Just because everyone seems to be OK with it, doesn’t make it right. As Christians, we must know and heed God’s Word on subjects such as homosexuality and gay marriage even when it is uncomfortable or controversial. God knows what is best for us.
Often, as human nature goes, those who are committing certain sins seek others who are doing the same. When someone is living a sinful lifestyle, they want to find ways to justify what they are doing. They look for the justification from those of like mind. When someone enters into a sexually deviated lifestyle of any kind, it may seem right for a season. It may feel good physically. It may cause endorphins to fly that make us happy. Those endorphins may even cause us to be “drugged” to the point that we can no longer see right from wrong. You see, it is that powerful super-glue affect that binds two together and makes it feel like a marriage kind of love. However, marriage is not, surprisingly, just about emotional love—it is also about the body. This article in Christianity Today explains it much better than I could ever do. Even if there is no sex involved in a relationship, if a man loves another man or a woman loves another woman; just because they love doesn’t constitute the need for marriage. I love my kids. I love my friends. Get the picture?
I’m not here to throw stones. I am a sinner saved by grace just like anyone else who accepts the Lord as their Savior. I am trying to deliver this as humbly and lovingly as I can. However, if you have chosen a gay lifestyle and continue down that path; I don’t believe God is not going to bless you. (Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.) I feel that as a country, if we continue to accept the lies of Satan and choose to live in ways that go against God’s Word; we will perish.
Marriage is something that should be coveted…protected…and respected. It is not something that was intended to be anything other than between man and woman. If God wanted man to marry another man, he wouldn’t have bothered to create Eve for Adam. It seems like there is nothing sacred anymore in our nation though. We throw away babies, disrespect authority and now continue to mock marriage designed by God, Himself. I fear for our land and for those of us who call ourselves Christians and continue to allow our nation to go in the direction it is headed.
I am sad. I am sad that so many have believed the lie and chosen the gay lifestyle. There are good, loving people who have been sucked into the sin. Someone said today that they felt sorry for those who have to give up the loves of their lives…their soul mate…in order to live under God’s law. Don’t we all pay a price of some sort when we choose God? It doesn’t literally cost us anything to accept the Lord. Jesus already paid the price for our sins on the cross. However, I do remember people making fun of me for my choice to become a Christian, family members not accepting my newfound faith, and a lot of old habits of my prior sinful life that I needed to shed. Some things were easy to get rid of and others took work and sacrifice of self. My choice to follow God is not always popular. I have even questioned my choice from time to time when depression sweeps over me or life seemed to just be too difficult. However, I know today that there was no sin in my life worth losing the relationship that I have today with my Savior, Jesus Christ. Satan wants us to believe that we can’t live without it—whatever it might be. Jesus wants us to know we will not live (eternally) with it.
Life on this earth is temporary. It is the choices we make in the few short years given us on this earth that will affect our souls for eternity. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t step out and try to warn those living this lifestyle of its ramifications. I know some will quit following my blog while others will be angry and attack me. It makes me sad. However, I know I serve a God that is bigger than any sin that binds someone on this earth and with His help you can be set free. I was set-free from my sins, just as you can be too. We are all human. We all struggle with sin.
If we believe and trust in God as one nation under God, we have to believe His Word.
All of it.
Lori Kempton, Author/Speaker 
Jesus said that those who were exposed to His ministry and took Him lightly or not at all would receive harsher treatment at the Judgment than Sodom and Gomorrah (communities filled with homosexual practice). Evidently He characterized it as sin, one of a number of sins, and not necessarily the worst. He was always drawing close to the sinner (publican, harlot, adulteress). They sensed His love and genuine interest in their welfare, and His very presence changed them. When the Church declines association with the gay community, they are not acting as Jesus did.
And then some say that there is the genetic issue. Imagine a kleptomaniac saying that God made him to steal and that society must be supportive and respectful of thievery. Nope. It is aberration.
Yes, I agree. The church needs to love more but not accept the sin. Loving someone with the love of Christ can change our world as we know it today. Thanks for your comments.
Dear Lori, I am proud of you for speaking the truth about marriage between a man and a woman. Also, I agree we must tell our homosexual friends the truth. The Bible says to not spare the rod of correction with our children so they can have a better life. We also cannot spare the rod (God’s word) of correction with our older children, relatives, and friends as we do in love on face book, emails, etc. God’ word guides toward a better rest on earth and how to be a blessing to others. Satan hates God and people so he’s trying to distort good and make bad look okay. Every where Satan is leading people down a path that seems okay but it in the end it will destroy them.
My concern is for the church to be ready when/if a homosexual visits looking for God. How are we going to treat/receive them? I hope we would treat them the way Jesus would. He would be friendly and not judge. He would give them time to hear and hear the truth of grace and salvation without pushing the law. And when/if they decide to receive Him as their Savior He would not put big demands but let the Holy Spirit lead them what to do next. Our church has a new member’s class which helps.
I can’t be responsible for anyone else’s actions. Personally, I would hope that one might feel Christ’s love through those they would encounter in the church. We are not there to judge; rather to help others find the Lord like we have. If they do feel judgement, they should move on and find another church. We are all sinners saved by grace.
Go Girl!!!!!!
Thank you, Lori, for expressing this so beautifully.
Thanks, Mona!